Thomas Allen Barr, age 40 passed away unexpectedly on Tuesday, December 17, 2019. Tommy was born in Burlington on July 8, 1979 to Jean Barr Koch. Tommy attended Burlington schools and in younger years was involved in scouting, Little League, skate boarding, and snowboarding. The latter two followed in to his adult life. Tommy was good at anything he tried - dancing, many forms of art, air brushing, but he loved to snowboard. He was a wonderful storyteller and could make anyone smile. He was the first one to offer a helping hand, a word of advice, or just a shoulder to cry on. His artistic eye and talent made him a craftsman above the rest. Tom's business "TomCat Construction" was something that he took great pride in. From remodeling porches or kitchens, replacing rotted pieces of framework here and there, to building from the ground up, he could do it all. He enjoyed drawing and had a deep appreciation for art. You would often find him doodling on a piece of paper, producing a drawing most people would envy. Tommy was proud to be a 14th generation Vermonter and had a love for family and history that he inherited from his grandparents at a young age. He overcame many obstacles in his life but, his greatest pride was his daughter, Iris who is almost 4 years old. He cherished his time with her and was so proud watching her grow. His life was all about Iris when they were together. He was a great Daddy and a truly loving father as well as a loving son. Tommy leaves behind his daughter, Iris Ann Barr and her mother Chrissy Gleason, his mother, Jean (Barr) Koch and her husband Bob Koch, his stepsisters, Kasey Koch, Katie Koch, Korey Koch, and Jessica LaCroix-Sharrow, and his step-brother, Phillip LaCroix as well as many nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins, and life-long friends too numerous to list. He was predeceased by his loving grandparents John and Ann (Lambert) Barr.
Tommy was an addict. He was addicted to life, fun, laughter, the love of his family, and sadly drugs and alcohol. He had been opiate free for almost 3 years - we talked about that just Monday night and how proud he was of that. His addiction, at times controlled him but, never defined him. Tommy. Tomtonio, Tom Tom, Baby Barr, Daddy. He helped so many people escape the grasp that he was unable to be free from. Tommy lost his battle with this chronic disease. If any one of you are struggling with the pain, depression, and shame with your own inner demons, please reach out to someone.
In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to: Safe Recovery – VT Addiction Services, 45 Clark Street, Burlington, VT 05401 or a charity of your choice. In remembering Tommy, please do something kind for someone - buy them a lunch, give them a bus ticket, offer them a ride, or just listen. Tommy would appreciate that as it's what he did every day.
This one is for a “GoFundMe” site that Jean’s step son Phil Lacroix has called “Enough is Enough”
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The other is for an educational fund for Tommy’s daughter Iris (set up by his ex-wife Chrissy Gleason)
Make checks payable to: VHEIP with Iris A Barr #8000314226 in the memo line.
Sent to: PO Box 44002, Jacksonville, FL 32231
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