Carol L. Penberthy Butler
Carol L. Penberthy Butler, 62, passed away unexpectedly at her home on Saturday, March 30, 2019. Carol was one of five children born in Cleveland, OH to William S. and Vivian May (Amy) Penberthy. She graduated from Garfield Heights High School in 1974, and Mount Vernon Nazarene College in 1979 with a B.A. in Education. She held Elementary Certificates for K-8 in Ohio, Kansas, and Vermont.
As a child, Carol’s favorite memories were vacations in New Hampshire, traveling across the country, and family camping trips taken every summer. She enjoyed singing, hiking, and bowling.
After graduating college, Carol visited her sister Cindy in Vermont. Shortly after she moved to Waterville, VT and she worked at Smuggler’s Notch Resort, and as a school teacher at Cambridge Elementary. While living in Waterville, mutual friends set her up on a blind date with John Butler of Underhill. Carol and John married at the base of Mount Mansfield on the Butler Family Farm on June 29, 1985. They were blessed with four beautiful and healthy children who she raised to hold a love of farming, hunting and family.
Swimming, visiting with family and friends, going to the beach to watch sunsets, and dreaming daily about swimming with dolphins were some of her favorite things. Regardless of the size of a function or gathering, Carol was known for making sure there was an abundance of food, toys, and games. At birthdays, gallons of ice cream would appear from the freezer, an assortment of snacks and her extravagant custom cakes. Thrilled is an understatement of her feelings watching children laugh and play with the assortment of toys always on hand. Even at her wedding, she made sure there was a separate area full of toys and games where children could play. She dreamed of having a swimming pool, and was blessed to watch her children and grandchildren swim in it for the last few summers.
Holidays were Carol’s specialty. She decorated and shopped so the house would be ready for Easter egg hunts, stuffed Easter Baskets, chocolate, dancing stuffed animals, window decorations, gifts, and colorful lighting. Carol especially looked forward to visiting with family, showering her children and friends with gifts and making each gathering truly memorable. Christmas was by far her favorite, where often two Christmas trees were in the house. One tree was always weighted down with countless homemade ornaments from her children. The other tree had to be a fluffy white pine, with white lights, elegant glass ornaments to give a certain sparkle to it. Her love of a large elegant tree was accompanied by an overabundance of presents that took hours to open. There was often no room to sit in the living room before presents were opened, and especially after.
Carol loved and cherished John, but more than anything she loved her children and grandchildren. They were what she lived for, dedicated her life to, and her proudest accomplishment. When her kids were young, she stopped working so she could stay home full-time with them. Carol homeschooled them at times, and as they got older she was a well known and loved substitute teacher in their schools. Juggling all four of them to different activities such as dance lessons, brownie scouts, baseball practice, basketball practice, shooting practice, softball practice, soccer practice and all of their games was a feat. She was so proud of her kids, and loved watching them play and telling everyone how talented they were. When their shooting team interest grew, she traveled with them to shooting matches in Ohio, Georgia, Pennsylvania, and the Junior Olympics in Colorado. Even when they were travelling, Carol made sure to bring holidays along, and the Easter Bunny made a trip to Vermont and Colorado one year.
Every day was an opportunity to make something special for her children. During hunting season, Carol would make the kids a hot breakfast early in the morning so they would be ready to get in their tree stands with full bellies. Matching orange hats, pockets full of candy and hot hands ensured they were ready before first light. There was hot cocoa waiting for them after sledding, advent calendars at Christmas, tooth fairy visits, or a secretive Mr. New Years leaving treats for all the nieces and nephews.
As her children got older, Carol helped them prepare to be adults by assisting with school applications, loan applications, insurance paperwork, vehicle loans, business loans, and business plans. She dedicated her life to her children and their success, and sacrificed her own dreams to ensure they pursued theirs.
When grandchildren arrived, her love was abundant. As soon as any baby was cradled in her arms, Carol would burst into a smile that would light up the room. So when they were her own grandchildren, she was radiant. Carol adored cuddling with them, watching Flipper as they sat on her lap, reading books to them, and holding them while they slept. It is difficult to put into words how much her “little turkeys” meant to her and how much they will miss her.
In everything that she did, Carol had genuine good intentions. She was kind hearted and always putting her family first. Carol’s absence is mourned by her husband, John A. Butler: her son William Butler and his wife Natalie of Underhill; her daughter Eadye Button and her husband Tyler of Jeffersonville; her son Tristan Butler and his wife Mikaela of Underhill; and her son Kohlton Butler and his wife Colleen of Underhill. Carol will be especially missed by her grandchildren--Hazel Butler, Beau Button, and Valerie Button. Carol will also be missed dearly by her family--sister Cindy Mann and her husband David; brother Steve Penberthy and his wife Rose; sister Nancy Savage and brother-in-law Bob Savage; brother-in-law Don Rucker; her favorite Uncle Don Amy and all of her nieces, nephews, extended family and loving friends.
She was predeceased by both of her parents, her two sons Jake Butler and Stephen Butler, and sister Alyce Rucker.
In honor of Carol’s life, a wake will be held on Friday, April 12th, from 4 p.m. until 7 p.m. at the Essex Alliance Church. A funeral service will be held on Saturday, April 13 at 10:00am at the Essex Alliance Church with a reception to follow. (Essex Alliance Church: 37 Old Stage Rd Essex VT)
God looked around His garden
And found an empty place.
He then looked down upon the earth and saw
Your tired face.
He put His arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God’s garden must be beautiful;
He always takes the best.
He saw the road was getting rough,
And the hills were hard to climb, so
He closed your weary eyelids
And whispered, “Peace be thine.”
It broke our hearts to lose you,
But you didn’t go alone,
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home.
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